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Raising Happier and Healthier Child: What is the Best Parenting Style?

Written by: Louis Budiman, Grants Researcher Intern Project Child Indonesia

Family is a fundamental and primary agent of socialization for every human being to grow. Creating a happy, healthy, and safe family environment for children requires a proactive role by parents. To achieve this, good parenting is essential and the very basic aspect that shapes not only child behaviour, but also their likelihood to be a responsible and successful adult in the future. Every parent surely loves and cares for their own kids, but we might want to wonder and ask: what is the best parenting style?

Most researchers and experts agree that there are four major parenting styles (Morin, 2019): authoritarian (focus on obedience and punishment over discipline); authoritative (create positive relationship and enforce rules); permissive (do not enforce rules; ‘kids will be kids’); uninvolved (provide little guidance, nurturing, or attention). In fact, most parents do not necessarily fit solely into one of the categories as they often adopt combined approaches (Lloyd, 2016). This is because every parent and the child have different characteristics and family background, which makes generalization a little bit tricky. Nevertheless, most studies as well as parents agree that authoritative parenting style is the most common way to raise happier and healthier children (Morin, 2020). Such a parenting approach can also mitigate negative consequences that other parenting styles often create. Moreover, the truth is that everyone can be a more authoritative parent. 

There are some starting points for parents to be more authoritative in parenting. First, parents should be aware of their child’s emotions and feelings. This is crucial particularly when children cry or get angry. Telling them to stop crying might be the reaction by most parents, but it is also important for parents to acknowledge what their child is really going through as it might be a big deal to them. To do so, parents can start by considering their child’s feelings, validating their child’s emotions, and being a good listener. This can help parents to provide positive attention and prevent behavioural problems. 

Enforcing rules is also essential in raising children to be responsible. Permissive or uninvolved parents tend to put a little effort on this aspect, while authoritarian parents can be too intense in establishing rules and too excessive in giving warnings. Authoritative parents often set clear rules and explain the reasons behind them to their child – and this could be an ideal way to not only enforce the rules but also to help children understand and expect consequences by following or not following the rules. When children make mistakes, parents must avoid shaming, guilt-tripping, and imposing corporal/physical punishments to their child. Instead, give children consequences that teach life lessons and learning opportunities. This is necessary to maintain child’s anger management, conflict resolution skills, and sense of responsibility. In addition, incentives or rewards could also help and motivate children in getting used to good behaviours. 

Last but not least, parents shall build a positive and healthy relationship with their child. Instead of aiming to control children, it is better for parents to encourage their child’s self-discipline. Parents need to be a good role model and give enough quality time to preserve their child’s mental health. Being a more authoritative parent needs compassion, affection, and patience – and these are the keys to raise a happier and healthier child.

References

Lloyd, C. (2016). What’s your parenting style?. Retrieved from https://www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/types-of-parenting-styles/#:~:text=Studies%20have%20identified%20four%20major,academically%20strong%20and%20emotionally%20stable

Morin, A. (2019). 4 Types of Parenting Styles and Their Effects on Kids. Retrieved from https://www.verywellfamily.com/types-of-parenting-styles-1095045.

Morin, A. (2020). 12 Ways to Become a More Authoritative Parent. Retrieved from https://www.verywellfamily.com/ways-to-become-a-more-authoritative-parent-4136329.

Thompson, H. (2018). What’s the ‘best’ parenting style to raise a successful child?.  Retrieved from https://www.mother.ly/child/whats-the-best-parenting-style-to-raise-a-successful-child.

Be Happy, At Home!

Written by Graciella Ganadhi, Content Writer Project Child Indonesia

It’s International Day of Happiness! Do you know that your happiness contributes to the global economy? The UN General Assembly had called for “a more inclusive, equitable and balanced approach to economic growth that promotes the happiness and well-being of all peoples.” Simply said, if people are happy then the global economy will grow too. It is more a humane approach to developing the economy than blatantly forcing people to work harder but make them suffer.

The UN has recognised happiness as a “fundamental human goal” and you should too! Here are the reasons why:

  1. Happiness boosts your health and promotes a healthy lifestyle, thus you’ll live longer!
  2. You’ll be more productive and you’ll possibly have larger income!
  3. Your happiness makes your relationships with others stronger, longer, and more fulfilling!
  4. Happiness has been proven to reduce stress and anxiety.

The theme for International Day of Happiness 2020 is “Happier Together.” As a social being, we cannot live alone, right? We receive more fulfilment if we have fun with others than by ourselves. Going out with friends and family will always be more fun than to go out by yourself.

There are a lot of ways for you to be happy. Even though doing group things are fun and fulfilling, doing things that you enjoy by yourself is fun too! Especially with the spread of COVID-19 and the fact that you should stay home, being happy by and with yourself is more important than ever. Fortunately, there are a lot of ways in which we can entertain ourselves. Watching youtube videos, scrolling through twitter and countless hours on instagram, reading books, or playing video games can be your source of happiness when you cannot and should not go out. You can rearrange your room and order decorations online if your room brings you happiness or you can try cooking your favorite food because food always brings happiness, right?. There are also lots of online classes that you can take if you want to develop yourself while having fun as well.You can and should be creative with how you spend your time while you’re home-bound. Happiness and fun come from the simplest things. So, be happy and stay happy, peeps! 

Important note: Please stay home to help stop the spread of COVID-19. Happiness can be found everywhere, even at home. If you live longer, your happiness will last longer too!

References:

  • https://www.njlifehacks.com/happiness-benefits/ (Accessed on March 18th, 2020 at 18.16)
  • https://www.dayofhappiness.net/about (Accessed on March 18th, 2020 at 18.16)