Say Hi to the Child in You

Written by Felya Amaraputri Andhini, Social Media Admin at Project Child Indonesia

As the number of our age adds up every year, we get too caught up in our lives. We have so many responsibilities that can be very overwhelming at times. Then, something happened. All the negative thoughts and traumas that we experienced when we were younger came like a flash flood. When this occurs, it is a sign that we have some unresolved issues or trauma from our past that are probably buried somewhere deep down in ourselves. 

So, how to deal with that?

To deal with trauma from our childhood, one thing that we can try is to get in touch with a younger version of ourselves aka our inner child! The inner child is the child-like personality that will always live within us. Therefore, when our younger self didn’t meet the needs that we should’ve received, reconnecting with our inner child can be a great way to heal the wounds that we bring until now. 

Other than that, embracing our inner child allows us to explore ourselves better. We are forever on a journey of self-discovery. A year is not enough to get to know or develop ourselves better. Hence embracing our inner child can make the journey more fun and enjoyable. 

Now it leads us to the next question, how do we encounter our inner child and how do we take care of it?

Spend time with yourself
How many times have you had a date with yourself this week? If you haven’t got a chance yet, you should probably spare some. Sit with yourself and write down all the things that brought you joy when you were a child. Children are very easily fascinated by the little things and that is what makes them content. By doing this, you’ll get reminded of those times and this can be a sign for you to do those activities again. 

Channel your creativity
It is a well-known fact that children are very creative. Their imaginations lead them to be creative in expressing themselves. Maybe some of us would think, I am not a creative person. But the truth is, everyone is creative and sometimes it’s just a matter of how to activate it. Don’t be afraid to always try new things because this will surely help you in meeting your inner child.

Revisit your childhood memories
Open a photo album that is filled with your childhood pictures. Can you recall some of the memories from those pictures? Flipping through your childhood pictures or diaries can help you reflect on your inner child. You might also want to try talking to the kid inside the picture. Research said that visualization can really help us in connecting with the kid within ourselves.

In the end, it all comes back to us. We’re now grown-ups and we have the full power to choose what we want. Rather than blaming ourselves for whatever happened in the past, we always have the option to forgive ourselves. It is also worth remembering that sometimes, whatever happened in the past is beyond our control. Saying hello to a younger version of ourselves is a brave step to overcome our past issues and trauma. This might be gonna be a very long process, but eventually, our inner child will thank us.

References:

Brown, Sarah J. (2021). 5 Self-Soothing Tips to Heal Your Inner Child. Retrieved from https://www.forbes.com/sites/womensmedia/2021/09/02/5-self-soothing-tips-to-heal-your-inner-child/?sh=71dc07962f32

Raypole, Crystal. (2020). Inner Child: 6 Ways to Find Yours. Retrieved from ​​https://www.healthline.com/health/inner-child#visualize

Ketimpangan Pendidikan di Timur Indonesia

Written by: Dhiandra Sekar Taji, Social Media Admin Intern at Project Child Indonesia

“Beri aku 1000 orang tua, niscaya akan kucabut semeru dari akarnya. Beri aku 10 pemuda niscaya akan kuguncang dunia” – Ir. Soekarno, Presiden pertama Republik Indonesia

Kutipan tersebut merupakan sebuah kutipan yang dilontarkan dengan lantang oleh Bapak Proklamator kita, Ir. Soekarno. Seruan tersebut berhasil menggetarkan hati para pemuda Indonesia yang sedang membara dan haus akan kemenangan. Pemuda merupakan ujung tombak bangsa di masa depan. Mereka akan menjadi garda terdepan bangsa dalam melindungi daratan dan lautan yang membentang dari Sabang hingga Merauke. Darah, keringat, tenaga, pikiran, dan perasaan akan mereka kerahkan hingga titik darah penghabisan demi kesejahteraan negara tercinta, Indonesia. 

Namun, apakah hal tersebut akan terjadi apabila negara kita tidak dapat memenuhi hak mereka? Hak yang diidam-idamkan para pemuda, yaitu merasakan bangku pendidikan dengan layak. Saya rasa kesuksesan pemuda dalam membawa Indonesia menjadi negara yang lebih baik tidak akan terjadi apabila hak tersebut tidak dipenuhi. Kesuksesan bangsa Indonesia mungkin hanya akan menjadi dongeng pengantar tidur dan angan-angan yang hanya dikuburkan dalam-dalam tanpa batu nisan.

Memang, apabila dilihat saat ini pendidikan Indonesia berjalan seperti biasa. Para pemuda pergi ke sekolah dengan hati riang gembira demi menuntut ilmu yang mereka dambakan. Namun, apabila dilihat lebih dekat, pendidikan yang mereka kenyam tidak seindah yang terlihat. Pendidikan yang mereka dapat tidak rata bagi pemuda Indonesia di beberapa bagian terutama di daerah Indonesia timur.  

Mereka harus menyeberangi sungai dan memanjat jembatan sempit untuk menuntut ilmu. Mereka harus mempertaruhkan nyawa mereka untuk belajar demi mendapatkan selembar ijazah yang akan turut andil dalam mensejahterakan bangsa Indonesia. Mereka harus bersusah payah terlebih dahulu untuk merasakan hangatnya bangku pendidikan. 

Selain itu, banyak dari anak-anak yang merupakan calon dari pemuda tangguh kita di Indonesia timur yang tidak dapat membaca. Mereka buta huruf. Bahkan, 3 provinsi dengan persentase tertinggi penduduk yang buta huruf berasal dari provinsi di Indonesia Timur, yaitu Provinsi Papua (22,03 persen), Nusa Tenggara Barat (7,52 persen), dan Sulawesi Barat (4,46 persen). Data tersebut didapat dari Survei Sosial Ekonomi Nasional (Susenas) Badan Pusat Statistik (BPS) tahun 2020.

Apakah itu terlihat adil? Bukankah itu terlihat sangat memprihatinkan? Mengapa hal tersebut harus terjadi pada garda terdepan Indonesia di bagian timur? Mengapa anak-anak dan pemuda di timur Indonesia harus merasakan peliknya pendidikan? Apakah pemerintah hanya menganggap pemuda di barat Indonesia saja yang bisa menjadi serdadu masa depan bangsa? Hal apa yang membedakan antara pemuda di bagian timur Indonesia dan bagian barat Indonesia? 

Saya rasa tidak ada perbedaan yang signifikan antara kedua pemuda tersebut. Mereka adalah para pemuda cerdas andalan bangsa. Mereka adalah para pemuda yang akan tumbuh menjadi para pemuda yang kuat dan pintar sehingga mampu mengharumkan nama bangsa. Tidak ada perbedaan kualitas antara pemuda di timur Indonesia dan barat Indonesia. Untuk itu, kami, para garda terdepan bangsa memohon dengan sedalam-dalamnya untuk memberantas ketimpangan kualitas pendidikan di timur Indonesia, agar kami dapat membuat bangga ibu kita tercinta, ibu pertiwi.

Referensi

Kasih. (2021, June 9). 2,9 Juta Penduduk Indonesia Masih Buta Aksara, Terbanyak di Papua. Edukasi.Kompas.Com. Retrieved November 29, 2021, from https://edukasi.kompas.com/read/2021/09/06/170506771/29-juta-penduduk-indonesia-masih-buta-aksara-terbanyak-di-papua

Let’s Save Pangolins!

Written by Arlenea Halyda, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Photo from Born Free Foundation

Unfortunately… They’re on the brink of extinction.

Oh no, how is this happening?

A bit of background: among many illegal markets, the illegal wildlife trade market is one of the largest types of trafficking. To make it worse, it’s also one of the most profitable multinational crimes, with a value estimation of the goods totaling about $10 to $20 billion USD per year.

And pangolin trade just so happens to be the number one contributor to the illegal wildlife trade.

The International Union of Conservation of Nature (IUCN) declared that more than one million pangolins from all eight species have been poached from the wild, which accounts for 20% of the total illegal wildlife trafficking. According to the Worldwatch Institute, pangolins are captured more frequently than other animals in Asia’s wildlife trade black market.

The pangolin trade includes illegal trafficking and transactions of pangolin-derived products, and it’s happening all over the world.

The trade spans all over Asia and Africa, with China and Vietnam as the major destination of the shipment, and Nigeria and the Republic of Congo as the major source of the shipment. But the country involved is not limited to these four—the United States, Mexico, Japan, and a number of Asia states (such as Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia, and others) are also a participant.

Bottom line is, the threat of pangolin extinction is a worldwide issue.

Why is this happening to pangolins?

The most prominent reasons are because they’re sought out for foods, medicines, and belief purposes.

Pangolins can be sold at a ridiculously high price. Due to this, pangolin meat is considered to be an exotic dish and a luxurious delicacy in Vietnam and China, exclusive only to the wealthy. Its consumption is often intended to be a display of wealth and status.

Aside from food, pangolin meat and scales are also believed to cure numerous health issues.

Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) is infamous for using pangolins in various medications—despite pangolin products having no proven medicinal values or benefits. Its scales alone are a valuable asset for many TCM practitioners, wholesale markets, and even hospitals! 

Not only in China, but many tribes in Africa also utilized pangolin body parts, whether to aid health complications or for spiritual purposes. It’s believed to improve people’s lives and protect them from malicious spirits.

The uniqueness of pangolins is why they’re so expensive and sought after. Unfortunately, many poachers don’t care about sustainability. This is why, more than ever, it’s urgent for us to protect pangolins.

But why should we care about pangolins?

An ethical answer would be because pangolins are living beings who are equal to us, and hunting them to near extinction is not right. Animals shouldn’t have to be useful to be worth saving, especially when humans are the ones causing their demise.

But a more concrete answer would be because pangolins play a critical role in the ecosystem. The earth where pangolins are living is provided with all-natural pest control, seeing as pangolins’ diet consists of termites and ants. On top of that, pangolins are wonderful tenders of soil. What’s more amazing is that they do these things throughout their daily lives.

So what can we do to protect pangolins?

A good way to help is to raise awareness about this situation. Let people, especially kids, know that there’s a precious species of animal that’s almost extinct, and it’s happening right under our noses. Show them why they should care, why it’s a severe problem, and why we’re all responsible for it (even if we’ve never consumed any pangolin products before)!

Another great way is to donate money to an organization that cares about this cause. Ensure that your money goes directly to a pangolin conservation center and is being used to preserve the survival of pangolins. Pangolin Crisis Fund and WWF is a good place to start, though there are many other amazing organizations out there that also fight for pangolins’ future.

And of course, the bare minimum: don’t consume any pangolin products!

Let’s save pangolins while we still can!

References

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Valentine’s Day: Parents’ Love

Written by Nathaniel Alvino Risa Prima, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Have you grabbed a box of chocolate? Or perhaps, buy some cute flowers for your loved ones? Well, if you haven’t yet, don’t get too pressured. Not everyone is into Valentine. Let alone into chocolate or flowers. That’s totally okay.

People out there always associate Valentine’s Day with some romantic-related agendas. It’s usually referred to romantic partners like boyfriend and girlfriend, or even, husband and wife. Hmm, I know a couple in their 40’s and they’re still celebrating Valentine each year. It’s kind of sweet, isn’t it?

Regardless of the festive and hype everywhere you turn your head, not so many people remember that Valentine is just another day of love celebration. If you look upon the calendar, February 14th is definitely not the only day when you can spend time with your loved ones and buy them chocolate. Or in any way, to show them what love is!

Love is anywhere and anytime. It’s transcendental.

The same goes with parents’ love.

I have forgotten the last time I celebrated Valentine’s Day with my parents. While they were actually the ones who introduced me to it. During Valentine’s Day, my mother always buys me chocolate (she loves chocolate!) when I was a kid. I will buy her nothing because simply, I didn’t have money when I was too little.

And no, it’s not about the chocolate, though. It’s about the love gesture that my mother teaches me.

Valentine might be an example of when my parents (and indeed, many parents out there) show their love to their kids. While in fact, there are still other 364 days and beyond when parents endlessly exhibit the act of love.

Parents’ love is the kind of love that is warmth, near, and everlasting. Sometimes, when you talk about the love of your boyfriend or girlfriend, there is still a sort of humane uncertainty where you need more assurance about their love. I think parents’ love doesn’t work to that extreme. It’s more assured!

Growing up, I read a lot of passages and books which say that parents “fall in love” to their kids since they are still in the womb. It’s a bit tacky when you think about someone who falls in love with another human that is literally unseen. But hey, isn’t it the context of love? It’s always been the matter of feeling. It’s indeed unseen, but you can always feel it deep down thoroughly. Anywhere and anytime.

Love Through Sacrifices

When you were a kid, you might not understand the sacrifices that your parents made. You realized it when you’re much older. Some of you might always wonder why your parents go to work every day and they “leave” you at home. Well, maybe you were just too naive back then. But at least, for now, you have to understand that they leave to provide you with a living.

They just want to make you happy.

They might spend the possibly-horrible day at work from nine to five or even beyond, so that you could smile with your stomach full. Even until now, some of you still rely on your parents, so that you could go to school and buy cool stuff. Nothing’s bad with that. My point is that you have to realize that, at least at a point in your life, you can’t live without your parents’ support.

If you think about it deeply, there are so many things that your parents have to sacrifice so that you could survive. Once you take a paper and pen, the list will be rather very long. And sadly, you might not remember them all – proving how parents’ sacrifices go unnoticed to their children.    

So, on this Valentine’s Day, try to recollect the good things that your parents have done to you. In the past to the present. It might be nostalgic for most of us and for some, it would be rather an emotional roller coaster. Talking about my parents might be a teary-sensitive topic. So, do it only when you’re truly ready!

For all the good parents out there, whose love is always warmth and sincere, Happy Valentine’s Day!

Get to know The Jonah Complex Syndrome

Written by Amanda Ramaningrum, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Have you ever been bitter of yourself for achieving success, such as a promotion or earning more money than your friends or co-workers? Or what if you are accepted into one of the prestigious companies, but somehow feel like you didn’t deserve it?. That condition is called the Jonah Complex syndrome. The Jonah complex syndrome is the fear of success, or the fear of being one’s best.

The fear and sign as the outcome may look similar with the Impostor syndrome, but the Jonah Complex is totally the opposite. When the Impostor syndrome will make you work harder to reach your best potential, the Jonah Complex actually limits you to reach your best potential. Self-actualization, or reaching one’s own potential, is limited by this anxiety. 

What is the Jonah Complex?

In the 1950s, psychologist Abraham Maslow (recognized for his Hierarchy of Needs) invented the phrase “Jonah Syndrome” to describe his patients who were afraid of their own greatness and found themselves ‘running away from their best qualities’. 

“We fear our highest possibilities. We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments, under the most perfect conditions, under conditions of great courage. We enjoy and even thrill to the godlike possibilities we see in ourselves in such peak moments. 

And yet we simultaneously shiver with weakness, awe, and fear before these very same possibilities. So often, we run away from the responsibilities dictated, or rather suggested by nature, by fate, even sometimes by accident, just as Jonah tried in vain to run away from his fate”, said Maslow in The Farther Reaches of Human Nature.

You may have experienced this syndrome once, especially as we grow older, the challenges that we face are getting varied and bigger than before. Let’s say you work for a big project that requires hard work and professional skill, several days have passed and you are close to making a big new achievement from that. 

However, because you were never encouraged by your parents, the critical voice becomes a visceral response, and you choose to switch to a smaller project— thus almost achieving a big goal, but coping out. It’s the Jonah Complex that causes us to fall short of our potential and to settle for way less than is available to us.

How to beat this syndrome?

Maslow and his contemporaries proposed a simple yet effective strategy for dealing with The Jonah Complex. Laugh at yourself and express wonder. As you grow more self-actualized as a human, remember yourself that you are not a god, but neither are you a worm. To put it another way, keep modest while aiming for the stars.

We all have fears. The fear of failing. Fear of what others will think of you. Fear of what others will think of you. Fear of being left out… It goes on and on. It makes no difference if you’re scared (since we all are). The good we can do for ourself now is to remember that we can’t control everything, but we can control how we respond to (literally) anything. Good luck!

References

The Jonah Complex – Our Fear of Greatness. (2020, August 18). Misha Yurchenko. Retrieved November 8, 2021, from https://mishayurchenko.me/2020/08/18/the-jonah-complex-our-fear-of-greatness/

L. (2020, February 19). The Jonah Complex. Psychology Today. Retrieved November 8, 2021, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/202002/the-jonah-complex

T. (2021, May 9). The Jonah Complex: How Artists Can Overcome Fear of Greatness. The Charmed Studio Blog. Retrieved November 8, 2021, from https://thecharmedstudio.com/jonah-complex-artistsfear-of-greatness/

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Self-Reward: Is It Good or Bad?

After I finish my assignments, there will be an urgency to buy my favorite food. These actions also happen when I finish a project, for example I bought a K-pop album as an achievement for me who has done a great job in the project. This behavior is known as self-reward. Self-reward is basically giving achievement for what you’ve done. Sounds sad? I don’t think so.

Is It Important? 

There must be times when we are weary, bored, or stressed in the midst of our process and efforts to accomplish anything. We get bored because we are too concentrated and locked in our everyday routines at times. If we are exhausted, bored, or trapped, we could get agitated and sad if we let it like that. As a result, we need a self-reward. 

Self-reward can help us to develop our creativity, so it is fine to give yourself a reward. Rewarding yourself for the hard work you’ve done can restore your motivation when you feel like giving up. When you give yourself a reward, your brain produces dopamine, a hormone that makes us feel good and joyful. This hormone also acts as a stress reliever, restoring mental clarity. Self-reward is one of self-love action. Other than creativity, it helps us to develop our confidence. Therefore, we can shine our positive vibe toward others. 

Even though self-reward is important, we need to know that not all rewards are giving us positive effects. For example, after we finish one of the parts in an assignment, then we will do a self-reward, playing games all day long. Or you give yourself a reward by eating as much as you can, but it spends all of your money. Too much isn’t it?

Over Self-Reward

We need to know that Self-reward does not mean revenge after doing something tiresome. It does not mean postponing work and leaving it just like that. What will we get? Laziness. We feel too secure and too lazy to work it again. It will not help us to achieve the best version of ourselves. It can not be said self-reward anymore, it can be said as a self-time-bomb.

In matters of economics, if the desire to do self-reward is excessive, it will result in the emergence of a hedonistic style which is the originator of the formation of consumptive behavior. Jeremy Bentham in his book An Introduction to the Principles of Morals and Legislation said that nature has placed mankind under the rule of two sovereign masters, pain and pleasure. Those two are that show us what to do, and to determine what we will do. In summary, the higher a person’s hedonistic style, the higher their consumptive behavior is. 

Controlling Self-Reward

One way to prevent over self-reward behavior is by self-control. According to Rahma Nora in her article titled Konsumtif Berkedok Self Reward, With self-control we can control ourselves towards the behavior that will have an impact on us. Self-control can be done by holding back and controlling each action, considering the consequences of each action, focusing on goals, and setting priorities.

Self-control on self-reward will give us a positive impact, so that self-rewarding will be much more meaningful and useful for us. If we consume excessively under the pretext of self-reward, it will have a bad impact on us. So be mindful when giving yourself a reward.

References

Nora, R. (2021, May 23). Konsumtif Berkedok Self Reward. Opini.id. Retrieved November 18, 2021, from https://opini.id/sosial/read-17231/konsumtif-berkedok-self-reward

Putri, N. (2021, April 6). PENTINGNYA SELF REWARD UNTUK DIRI SENDIRI. Ners Unair. Retrieved November 18, 2021, from http://ners.unair.ac.id/site/index.php/news-fkp-unair/30-lihat/1230-pentingnya-self-reward-untuk-diri-sendiri

Sudah Kasih Reward Untuk Diri Sendiri Belum? (n.d.). KejarMimpi. Retrieved November 18, 2021, from https://www.kejarmimpi.id/sudah-kasih-reward-untuk-diri-sendiri-belum.html