5 Recipes to Make Your New Year’s Eve Special

Written by Dhiandra Sekar Taji, Social Media Admin Intern at Project Child Indonesia

It’s almost December! It means we are almost ready to ring in the new year with a bang! But, unfortunately the pandemic is still not over yet. Many of us will be settling in for an evening on the couch rather than going out for a night on the town. But just because your new year’s eve is different from the previous year doesn’t mean it can’t be joyful and meaningful. With just the proper amount of planning, you can still throw the New Year’s Eve blast at home with a lot of things to do. 

The last day of the year is one of the most important days in our life. Let’s take a look back for a second. The past few months have been challenging for us and New Year’s Eve is an ideal time to reflect on the things that we’ve done and reset our life. Like seriously, what better day than the last day of the year to reflect on all the things that you’ve accomplished and overcome?  So, before the clock strikes 12, here’s a highlight reel of ways to ring in the new year.

Outfit Time!

Who says you can’t dress up with your fancy clothes for evening chilling at the couch? Of Course you can! There’s no need to break tradition this year if you usually wear your best dress for New Year’s Eve. Other than that, you can do a family photoshoot at home with your fancy clothes. Also you can do candle light dinner with your family to match the vibes. Sounds fun and fancy at the same time right?

Baking

Baking is the best thing to do on the last day of the year because it takes a lot of time to spend. After a year like 2021, we all deserve a good treat to ourselves. You can try to make appetizers and desserts for chilling on the couch because it’ll reduce the mess of forks and knives without sacrificing good eats so you don’t have to worry about messing up your fancy dress. Don’t forget to grab some coke to accompany your chilling time!

Movie Time

If counting down the time for new year is not your thing, maybe you can watch some movies. Staying up all night while watching movies is a fantastic way to ring in the new year, so make sure your movie queue is ready! Oh, don’t forget to grab some snacks because watching movies without snacks is the worst thing ever.

Host a Virtual Game Night and Video Call With Your Loved Ones

It’s so sad that we can’t be with all of our family and friends on New Year’s Eve. But, it’s okay, you still can catch up with them virtually. You can play some virtual games on the internet or you could ask your friends to make a prediction for the new year about each other. This game can be fun especially when the predictions are a little out there. Don’t forget to ask them to save the prediction at their notes so it can be a proof which friend makes the right and the wrong predictions. Sounds crazy and fun at the same time right?

Write Down Your Resolutions

I guess new year new me won’t happen if you don’t write it down about it. After you’ve completed your year-end reflections for the previous year, it’s time to look forward to the upcoming year. You can write about your dreams, things to do, things to buy, or anything you want. Also you can try one of these simple lifestyle changes every day. You’ll not only kickstart a healthier body and mind, but you’ll also feel great and ready to make 2022 a much better year than ever

So, there’s no reason to spend the last day of the year with boring activities just because right now we are in the middle of the pandemic right? Well, good luck and may the upcoming year be filled with unforgettable memories and amazing people. Forget about all the bad things that happened to you last year and enjoy a fresh start. 

References:

Gordon. (2021, January 3). 10 Ways to Make New Year’s Eve 2020 Special. Verywellmind.Com. Retrieved November 21, 2021, from https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-make-new-year-s-eve-special-this-year-5092485

Labianca. (2020, December 29). 18 Festive Quarantine New Year’s Eve  Ideas to Ring in 2021. Goodhousekeeping.com. Retrieved November 21,  2021, from https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/holidays/g34704057/quarantine-new-years-eve-ideas/

Morillo. (2020, December 23). 11 Totally Fun Ways To Celebrate New Year’s Eve At Home This Year. Delish.Com. Retrieved November 21, 2021, from https://www.delish.com/holiday-recipes/g34934794/quarantine-new-years-eve-ideas/

4 Heartwarming Movies For The End-Year

Written by Nathaniel Alvino Risa Prima, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

This year has been a really tough fight for each of us, especially due to the COVID-19 pandemic and its corollaries. For some, staying productive might not be the peak priority and that’s totally okay! Instead, the most important thing is that you have gotten through all the challenges. Kudos for that and thank you very much for surviving!

Well, in the other news, we now arrive at the other side of the year: the holiday season!

Some might have been lucky enough to meet and gather with their families and other loved ones, while some have to remain away due to the personal responsibilities and pandemic policies. Wherever you are and whatever you are up to currently, I only wish you peace, happiness, and comfort! 

For many, spending time in front of a big-screen to watch movies would bring happiness and recreation – even, to the degree of personal liberation. Thanks to technology and digital advancement, there are so many platforms and types of entertainment that one could find easily nowadays. You can even watch cinematic works through your very own laptop! 

Therefore, in the current opportunity, I’ll provide you with some great movie recommendations to get yourself through this cold, rainy season. Most of them might not be the freshest nor the most popular, though. But trust me, they would do justice to spark your joy and imagination, as well as bringing warmth within! 

Minari (Lee Isaac Chung, PG-13, 2020, 1h 55m)

(Source: IMDB, 2021)

If you are around with your family during this holiday, then Minari (2021) is a must-go! Telling the story of Korean Americans who moved from South Korea to Arkansas, the movie highlights the intimate relationship as well as internal turbulence of a diaspora family: Jacob, Monica, Anne, David, and Soonja. Unlike most modern Korean families who rely on corporated services, trade, and industry in either East Coast or West Coast, Yi’s family hangs their lives on the future of farming in the isolated Southern town named Ozark. 

The cinematic piece denotes the struggle faced by first generation immigrants in the foreign land which includes the question regarding one’s belonging and identity, with family as its main theme. Starring Steven Yeun, Yeri Han, Noel Cho, Alan S. Kim, and Yuh-Jung Youn, Minari (2021) would bring you to a type of emotional trip that is rather tranquil in notion. Through the beautiful delivery and warm setting of Arkansas farmland, it’s indeed a good companion through the cold, rainy weather. 

Luca (Enrico Casarosa, PG, 2021, 1h 35m)

(Source: IMDB, 2021)

Some movies are meant to surprise the audience for a short term, and while the others leave a certain impression that lasts long. Luca (2021) is one of the laters!

No one would get bored while being brought to the warm and serene setting of Southern Italy – with clear ocean, vespa, and pasta! Depicted through attractive animations by Pixar, the movie revolves around the story of friendship between Luca, Alberto, and Giulia. 

Under what appears as ‘typical’, there is a little secret between the three: they are coming from two different worlds. Thus, their friendship is being truly examined. Would Luca, Alberto, and Giulia be able to jump across the fence and remain together as they’re always meant to be? Nothing could explain better than watching the piece yourself! If you are away from your family, Luca (2021) would certainly fit to be watched with your close friends! 

Tick, Tick… Boom (Lin Manuel Miranda, PG-13, 2021, 1h 55m)

(Source: IMDB, 2021)

Well, well, if you love watching movies with musical scores, then Tick, Tick… Boom (2021) should be on your refreshed list! In the other news, it’s a one in a million occasion to encounter the ex-Spiderman, Andrew Garfield’s singing, right?

Departing from the real lives of Broadway legend, Jonathan Larson, the piece highlights the “Bohemian” lives that an artist has been put through, in order to reach their goals. The cold and catastrophe nuance of The Big Apple would help the audience to get a closer look to the darker side in the lives of creative and artistic individuals. It also intertwines with the early-AIDS pandemic in the 1980’s which heavily affected many lives and futures.. 

If you are a real dreamer whose dream is not perceived as worthy enough by the society you currently live in, then this movie might get you in a good, emotional cry! 

Flipped (Rob Reiner, 2010, PG, 1h 30m)

(Source: IMDB, 2010)

Unlike common coming-of-age stories, Flipped (2010) revolves around the two eighth-graders in the 1950’s. The two protagonists, Bryce and Juli, were destined to encounter each other’s presence along the high sycamore tree which grows in the middle of an American suburb.

The heartwarming part about the movies would be the relationship surrounds the lives of young teenagers – when digitalization and technology advancement were not as apparent as nowadays; the scene of school, neighborhood, family, and front yard would let the viewers to take a step into the depth of American golden era in the post-World War II. It’s a kind of movie which would make you smile warmly throughout due to the cute little things! 

Hmm, now, are you ready to grab your snacks and do some binge-watchings?

Well, if you have any other suggestions, don’t forget to put them on your lists. Make it a long one. During this special holiday, spend as many times as possible with some good stuff to watch with your loved ones.

Don’t forget to stay warm and healthy throughout this end year as the weather might be out of control. It’s really cold and rainy outside. Please relax and take a break from everything for a while. You deserve all of the comforts and warmth.

Happy holiday and take care!

References

IMDb.com. (2010, September 10th). Flipped (2010). IMDb. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0817177/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0

IMDb.com. (2021, June 18th). Luca (2021). IMDb. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt12801262/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1

IMDb.com. (2021, August 5). Minari (2020). IMDb. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10633456/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0

IMDb.com. (2021, November 19th). Tick, Tick. . . Boom! (2021). IMDb. https://www.imdb.com/title/tt8721424/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0

Family Quality Time and How It Affects Us

Written by Juhandi Dwi Putra Lyana, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

On June 22, 2021, Fast and Furious 9 was released. The film is basically about a street race that brings the power of family in its narration. There are even a lot of memes on the internet about the plot itself where Dominic Toretto, the protagonist of Fast and Furious series played by Vin Diesel, and his team considers each other as family, talk about its importance and express willingness to take risks and make sacrifices to protect each other. 

From that film, it makes me realize the importance of family. No matter what happens, there will be a family behind you. How bruised we are and how far we go, family is one of the places which will always welcome us back. I know the memes are funny, but still, it gives me a goosebump. 

Family is the first stage in our life. It can be said that every aspect of our life started in the family. How a kid interacts with relationships, copes with events, and learns about living life is heavily influenced by the family in which they grow up. It’s only possible if we proactively be a part of the family. We can imagine if our own family, our first stage, is not safe. Then it will affect our next step in life.

Let me ask you, when was the last time you spent quality time with your family? Or when was the last time you spare your time to make a quality time with your family?

Sometimes, we are so busy that we forget about having quality time with our family. Your dad, mom, or siblings may be wondering about how you are right now. It is okay to be productive and busy, but remember to spare a couple of times to meet your family and spend quality time with them.

What is the significance of quality time with family? Let me explain it to you.

  1. Increasing family bonding

Spending time together as a family creates stronger emotional bonds. According to studies, families that participate in group activities together have a deeper emotional link and are better able to adjust to events as a family.

  1. Building self-esteem

Children who spend time with their parents doing activities together develop  high self-esteem. When children feel that they are valued by their parents, they feel more positive about themselves. 

  1. Developing communication skill

Children observe their parents’ interactions with one another and with others to learn how to behave and communicate. Family bonding time is a great method to model desired behaviors, and spending time together as a family may help parents connect with their kids and communicate more effectively.

Family activities do not have to be costly things to be meaningful. The key thing is to spend time together. When it comes to the time we spend with our family, we often assume it is all about the quantity of time we spend with them, when in reality, it is about the quality of time we spend with them. We need to be more concerned with how we spend our time with family than with the number of hours we spend with them. 

Now that you know why family time is important, why don’t you try to be like Dominic Toretto? Spending more time with your family can help you establish a strong family bond, and you will remain together through the good times as well as the bad.

Project Child Indonesia and Mercedes-Benz Delivered Sanitation and Hygiene Facilities to 10 Schools in Yogyakarta

Project Child Indonesia initiated the provision of hand washing facilities in elementary schools through the Sanitation and Hygiene Program. We collaborated with Mercedes-Benz in the development process until the handover of hand washing facilities, which was also supported by Dinas Pendidikan Kabupaten Sleman. These facilities have been handed over to 10 elementary schools in Sleman, Yogyakarta and completed in December 2021. The schools are SDN Pojok, SDN Sinduadi Barat, SDN Sinduadi 2, SDN Jombor Lor, SDN Jatisari, SDN Tlogoadi, SDN Plaosan 1, SDN Gabahan, SDN Kaweden, and SDN Purwosari. 

The COVID-19 pandemic encourages people to be more hygienic and implement health protocols in order to prevent the virus transmission. Thus, it is very important to create a clean environment to support health care, especially during the pandemic, to reduce the risk of spreading the COVID-19 virus. The Sanitation and Hygiene Program became our big theme in developing sustainable programs to support clean and healthy living behavior campaigns related to the 6th Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), Clean Water and Sanitation.

Through the Sanitation and Hygiene Program, Project Child Indonesia provides access for more than 3,600 school residents by providing hand washing facilities for elementary schools in Sleman, Yogyakarta. The provision of these facilities is followed by giving health education using digital booklets, educational posters, and also educational videos about practices related to sanitation and hygiene. 

The hand washing facilities are expected to be used by the entire school community, especially elementary school students to wash their hands regularly as a way to prevent the transmission of viruses and bacteria in the pandemic situation. We also hope that the health education that has been provided can be understood and applied properly.

In early 2021, Project Child Indonesia aspired to contribute continuously in the midst of a pandemic situation, especially for children in elementary schools. With the full support of Mercedes-Benz, the Sanitation and Hygiene Program can run well. We are very grateful for this collaboration and are very thankful to Mercedes-Benz for supporting our program.

The Mother’s Day: Recognizing Your Love to Your Mother

Written by Nathaniel Alvino Risa Prima, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

The role of a mother has not only been apparent for the physical and emotional aspect of a being. Beyond, mother has nurtured as well as caressed the deeper aspect in each of us: our souls. Its ultimate significance as ‘feminine power’ has contributed to the teachings of love and compassion towards all of us since the very beginning: the time when we were out of their womb. 

Even though the patriarchal world has not rarely denied the role and positioning of a mother – especially in the domestic household – in comparison to the father, it could not be dismissed that every human being needs the role of a woman figure in their life, which is initially familiarized by a mother. 

Reflected by the circulated popular belief, it is “doa ibu” (the mother’s prayer) that allows someone to be successful in their lives. The same goes with the inherited values by the local wisdom as consistently told in infamous oral tradition such as “Malin Kundang”. High respect and appreciation for mothers are expected to be shown by the children, or else they might be doomed!

But, how is the current situation between us and our mothers?

Along with the fourth wave feminism, postmodern movement, as well as the latest economic pursuit, it is encountered that there are so many aspects that have changed in the lives of men and women, olds and youngs, riches and poors. It includes, but not exclusively, the relationship between mothers and their children.

How so?

Well, nowadays, we encounter more and more mothers leaving their older, domestic roles, and instead, together with the fathers, pursuing professional careers. Not to mention that there are also mothers who have to be a single fighter, collecting money on their own, so that their children might survive. This kind of case usually happens in bigger, developed cities where societal and marriage issues are much more prominent and complex.

Regardless where your mother is: in the office, on the road, or inside your house – while yelling at you to pick up the dirty laundry and do the dishes – they always deserve your love and attention, as what they have always been in effort to give. 

As for some, having a good, caring mother might be “a privilege”. While for some others, the blessed presence of mother’s love might be less noticed. This situation would differ from one to another. The sad thing is this unfairness does justice to how our reality does revolve, thus, it only needs to be accepted. 

What can we do except to accept and look closely? We only might find the silver lining!

And no, I wouldn’t tell you to suddenly approach your mother and tell them that you love them. 

Love is a strong word. Sacred, I’d rather say. So, use it wisely and correctly. Make sure that you really know what storms behind its meaning. A word that is said without knowing the meaning would be futile. It goes along with the fact that everybody’s approach and understanding of love is diverse. 

Same goes with the seconds you tell your mother that you love them – as sacred the mother’s love is. 

It’d be much better to sit a little and remember the good things and nice memories that your mother has left to you since the very beginning. (But hey, if you’re sure that you can’t find any, it’s okay! Don’t be too hard on yourself, everyone has their own life multitudes, including their relationship with their mothers). 

Ah, and sometimes, the best things are hidden under what appears as complicated things. In other words, some occasions leave us as if it’s only meant to be some bad remarks firstly. While deeper, after further questioning and realization, it’s actually done for the sake of good, positive things (e.g. sacrifices that your mother has done to you).  

Now, for those who have recollected one, ten, or even two hundred thousand positive aspects of your mother,  you’re now ready to take your pen and notebooks. Make your simple list and it would do justice! Then, read and absorb those things in your mind and heart. I repeat, in your mind and heart! Put reflective questions such as: Why did my mother do it? How do they bear all of those things? What can I do as her son/daughter?

This kind of reflection is a deep emotional journey. Therefore, a tranquil period at night would do better. Reflective journaling, followed by personal questions would be the initial step, but the next step now depends on you! As you are the ones who involve yourself in the connection with your mother. Figure and do the things that would serve your mother’s love the best. 

Remember, the biggest realization doesn’t equal the biggest things that might be seen with one’s eyes. Same goes with love. You can’t see it, but you can always feel it somehow! Beyond thoughts and material possessions, recognize what does truly matter to your mother from your heart within. 

Happy Mother’s Day!

Building a Positive Self-Image

Written by Arlenea Halyda, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Before delving into the topic of self-image, let’s do a fun little exercise first! Close your eyes, and try to conjure an image of yourself in your head. What kind of person do you see?

Is the person you’re imagining smiling, frowning, or without a facial expression? What do you feel about that person—is it someone you adore? Someone you barely tolerate? Someone you can’t stand? What’s the first word that pops into mind when you’re thinking about that person?

The thoughts that appear as you try to picture yourself are your self-image; a perception you have of yourself.

The Mountain State Centers for Independent Living stated that a self-image is self-expression that you’ve built up over time. This image, depending on the person’s upbringing and various internal and external factors, can be negative or positive. Being rooted in our own thoughts, actions, and ideas, it’s only natural that the self-image we have of ourselves follows accordingly.

But why is it so important for us to have a positive self-image?

How we think about ourselves has a massive impact on our mental health and self-esteem, which then affects how we carry ourselves and how we interact with the world around us. Someone with a good self-image most likely exudes confidence and radiates positivity, and on the contrary, someone with a bad self-image might easily succumb to insecurity and shut themselves out.

But don’t worry! The good news is, self-image is not permanently fixed and ever changing. Even the most confident person can have one of those days where they don’t feel so great about themselves… And that’s okay.

This only means that self-image is malleable, and leaves room for development. Though it will take a bit of practice, we can mold the way we perceive ourselves however we like. If we suffer from a bad self-image, it’s possible to train our brains to look at ourselves in a more positive light.

With that being said, let’s take a look at some of the ways we can slowly build a positive self-image!

Learn How to Accept Ourselves

When you’ve spent too long disliking yourself, it might be hard to love yourself overnight—or even view yourself positively. So, instead of forcing yourself to love yourself, sometimes the best thing you can do is simply accept yourself.

Accept the fact that you’re a flawed human being with mistakes and errors, and acknowledge that those flaws don’t decrease your worth as a person. When you catch yourself nitpicking every single thing that you do, take a step back and remind yourself that maybe you won’t be as perfect as you want to be (not all the time, anyway), and that’s okay.

When you accept yourself, you’ll naturally give yourself a break and you won’t be so hard on yourself anymore. This is a big leap in viewing yourself positively, because you’ll stop scrutinizing everything that you do and just start living, as you are. And hey, along the way, you might find yourself starting to love the little things that you do (that you didn’t appreciate before)!

Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

As a former American President Theodore Roosevelt once said: “Comparison is the thief of joy”—comparing ourselves to other people might just be the biggest benefactor to our unhappiness, and it needs to be eradicated. While it’s good to be inspired by others’ achievements, it’s not healthy to actively compare where we are at life versus where they are at life. It’s a race we’ll never win, and we’ll just exhaust ourselves by running towards a non-existent finish line.

This is how we acquire a negative self-image, even when we’re doing perfectly fine on our own: we keep looking over at other people and think, I’ll never be that person.

News flash; you’ll never be that person. You can only be you, and that’s all you’ll ever be. Now it’s up to you whether or not you’ll make yourself a person you like, a person you adore, a person you look up to. Instead of lamenting the fact that you’re not that person, you can focus that energy on becoming a person you can be proud of.

Develop Our Skills and Strengths

Now let’s get down to business! While the first two points are mental exercises on how we can view ourselves more positively, this one’s a bit different because it requires visible effort on becoming the person we want to be. Let’s develop our skills and strengths!

The person you want to be is someone who’s good at math? Study extra hard to master it! The person you want to be is someone who reads a lot of books? Find resources and information on what books you might like, and set a reachable goal to finish it! The person you want to be is someone with a fit and healthy body? Spare the time to regularly exercise and stick to that routine!

While it’s deeply encouraged to accept and love yourself as you are, it’s also good to improve yourself little by little, by doing things you enjoy and are beneficial for yourself. By doing this, you’ll slowly grow into the person you’ve always envisioned, and having a positive self-image would come naturally after a while! Just be sure to keep a lookout on yourself and don’t burn yourself out by setting realistic and measurable goals.

Keep in mind that it would take a while to build a positive self-image. The road is long and you might revert back to having a negative view of yourself from time to time, but you got this. Remember, any progress is good progress!

Reference:Ackerman, C. (2021). What is Self-Image and How Do We Improve it? Definition + Quotes. PositivePsychology.com. Retrieved from https://positivepsychology.com/self-image/.

About Overthinking and Insecurity

Written by Arlenea Halyda, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Overthinking and insecurity: possibly two of the most common issues our generation faced.

If you ask a bunch of people what overthinking and insecurity means for them, the answers might differ. There are a wide range and various types of overthinking and insecurity that people experience—all are important, all are valid. I kept going back and forth trying to write what overthinking and insecurity feel like, at least for me. Yet I couldn’t find the words to describe it, despite having seen and felt these phenomena countless times.

So I’ll let Taylor Swift take the wheel, and present you with a quote she said during her 1989 World Tour back in 2015:

Every day we go online, and we scroll through the highlight reel of other people’s awesome lives—but we don’t see the highlight reel of our awesome lives. All we see is the behind-the-scenes; we see every single moment from when we wake up. You see your doubts, you see your fears, you see your concerns. You’re the one inside your brain feeling all the anxiety and hearing the voices that are telling you you can’t be who you want to be, or you’re not who you want to be, or you want to be more like that other person over there. Let me tell you: people are mean to each other, but no voices are as mean as our own voices are to ourselves.

Ms. Swift perfectly encapsulated the feeling of overthinking (seeing our doubts, fears, and concerns) which then turns into anxiety that creeps ever-so-slowly into our brain (we’re not or can’t be who we want to be, or we’d like to be someone else). She especially highlighted this phenomenon happening in this digital age where such information about people’s personal lives is exposed and transparent, thus making it easy for us to compare ourselves with other people.

But why is overthinking dangerous?

Overthinking might seem like a minuscule thing; an activity we don’t even realize we’re doing until we’re already deep in our thoughts. But that’s exactly where the danger lies—it’s something so normal that it’s easy to slip up and go past the ‘healthy’ boundary line.

If we make a habit out of it, we might just ‘accidentally’ let it rule over us, and our social and daily lives are threatened to be disrupted. Ashley Carroll, a Parkland Memorial Hospital psychologist, stated that ruminating on certain thoughts can snowball into bigger, more extreme negative thinking if we let it escalate.

Then, how does overthinking spiral into insecurity, exactly?

Insecurity, at its core, is the feeling of inadequacy within ourselves. It hinges on anxiety, be it about our personality, appearance, goals, relationship, and other things. While it can come from many places and factors, Dr. Lisa Firestone, a psychologist and author at PsychAlive, noted that insecurity might be created by something called “critical inner voice”: an internal dialogue formed out of painful life experiences that we unconsciously adopt and integrate within ourselves as we grow up. This “critical inner voice” might just be the seed from which our insecurities sprouted, and thinking about things over and over again could potentially trigger this inner voice.

However, while thinking of productive thoughts that stimulate self-awareness and growth, there are two distinguishing features of overthinking that differentiate it: overthinking wallows in the problem lets us dwell on external factors we have no control over, instead of actively trying to improve or solve problems within our capabilities.

Any of these sound familiar? Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Here are three ways that might help you in dealing with overthinking and insecurity!

  1. Focus on Problem Solving

After letting yourself react emotionally to a situation, it might be good to ask yourself: is it something I can solve or change? If it is, then roll up your sleeves and go right ahead and make progress to solve it, one step at a time! If it’s not, then ask yourself another question: what can I learn from this? It’s okay to cry as much as you want, but lamenting things you can’t change might only do more harm than good!

  1. Mindfulness is Key

Mindfulness can help you with overthinking and insecurity, how cool is that? By being fully present and engaged at the present moment, you won’t be too overwhelmed by other factors, and you’re less likely to be caught up in your concerns or past mistakes! You can also be more grateful for yourself, and the person you are right now, instead of wishing to be someone or something else.

  1. Forgive Yourself

Forgiving yourself might be the kindest act of compassion you can do for yourself. It shows that you accept who you are, flaws and all, and might slowly eliminate your insecurities, little by little. And hey, making mistakes is totally okay (as long as you learn from it) and a very human thing to do! Forgive yourself for the things you do, and forgive yourself for the things you didn’t do. Just like everyone else, you deserve compassion and forgiveness.

Stopping your overthinking tendencies and making peace with your insecurity take lots of effort and willpower. It’s even almost guaranteed for you to stumble back into old habits every once in a while. But it’s okay! It doesn’t mean you’ve lost all your progress. It’s all part of the healing journey, so when you do fall and stumble, I hope you can grant yourself gentleness and kindness.

To end this article, I’d like to share another Taylor Swift quote that I often use as a reminder whenever I feel myself spiraling into negative thinking and insecurity. I hope her words can give you the same consolation as they gave me.

When you have bad days that just don’t let up, I hope that you will look in the mirror and remind yourself of what you are and what you are not.

You are not somebody else’s opinion of you. You are not going nowhere, just because you’re not where you want to be yet. You are not damaged goods just because you’ve made mistakes in your life. You are your own definition of beautiful and worthwhile. You are a product of the lessons that you’ve learned. You are wiser, stronger, and smarter because you’ve made mistakes—not damaged.”

If you get rained on, if you walk through a bunch of storms, and life is constantly coming at you… That doesn’t make you damaged. It makes you clean.

References:

Hasan, S. (2019). How Overthinking Can Affect Mental And Physical Health. KERA News. Retrieved from https://www.keranews.org/health-science-tech/2019-07-12/how-overthinking-can-affect-mental-and-physical-health.

How to Overcome Insecurity: Why Am I So Insecure?. PsychAlive. Retrieved from https://www.psychalive.org/how-to-overcome-insecurity/.

Morin, A. (2020). 10 Signs You’re Overthinking (And What To Do About It). Forbes. Retrieved from https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2020/04/20/10-signs-youre-overthinking-and-what-to-do-about-it/?sh=339a7f602bb8.

Enhancing Your Personal Growth through Webinars

Written by Felya Amaraputri Andhini, Social Media Admin at Project Child Indonesia

The Coronavirus disease undoubtedly has affected every human activity. It was not easy to adapt when we were so used to doing everything face-to-face, but now we are forced to do it in front of our laptop or phone. For a lot of people, including me, shifting those activities online can make us slowly lose our social skills. There will also be obstacles when it comes to developing ourselves because of the unsupporting circumstances. Whereas when we can do things that require us to interact with people face-to-face, developing our personal growth can be easier. 

However, since we are living in a world where everything can be accessed through the internet, we can always learn how to upgrade ourselves through many platforms. Social media has provided us with many contents that we can watch, read, or listen to. But it still doesn’t erase the fact that people cannot interact with the speaker freely. Sure, we can leave comments but there is a chance it won’t be replied to right away or even be replied to at all.

That is why nowadays, many companies or instances that are holding an online event, such as a webinar that aims to spread awareness about certain issues or provide a platform for people to develop their skills. Webinars allow us to interact with other people in real-time and even ask questions to the speaker. Certainly, joining such an event online won’t give us the same vibe or excitement when we attend it face-to-face. However, rather than looking at the downside of it, why don’t we see it as a blessing instead?

Now you might be wondering, how is that a blessing?

Well, for starters, since webinars are conducted online, it means that they will be easier to access. As I stated earlier, our world revolves around the internet, therefore we can easily find information about webinars since companies will most likely advertise it on social media. Other than that, there are plenty of webinars that talk about different things that we can choose based on our needs, from leadership to time management, we can find and join them all!

If we happen to have money, we can also join a webinar that has many more benefits than the usual ones. For example, there is a more private webinar where a mentoring session is provided. This way, we can learn more about the topics we are interested in directly from reliable sources. 

However, free webinars are also available and it is no less beneficial than the paid ones. To give you an example, Project Child Indonesia has an event called PCI Talk. PCI Talk is a free monthly webinar event that you can join if you want to develop your skills or gain any useful knowledge. In the previous PCI Talks, we have had discussions on how to build empathy, develop our leadership skills, and even digital marketing skills. Isn’t that interesting?

For those of you who are interested in free webinars that could help enhance your skills, you could always stay tuned on our instagram so you won’t miss out on any information about the next PCI Talk! 

Come and grow with us!

Kisah Intern di Masa Pandemi: Menulis untuk Kebaikan

Written by Juhandi Dwi Putra Lyana, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Akhir-akhir ini, saya sering melihat teman atau kenalan yang seumuran dengan saya berlomba-lomba untuk mencari tempat magang. Lowongan program internship berlalu lalang di beranda media sosial saya. Salah satu contohnya adalah program internship Project Child Indonesia. Project Child Indonesia Internship Program memberikan kesempatan untuk menggabungkan pendidikan yang kalian miliki dengan pengalaman kerja langsung. Program Internship memberikan kesempatan bagi kalian yang tertarik menjadi bagian dari Program Team, Human Capital Team, Media & IT Team, atau Partnership Team.

Kali ini, saya berkesempatan untuk berbincang-bincang dengan salah satu intern yang bernama Nathaniel Alvino Risa Prima, atau lebih sering dipanggil Kak Nathan. Kak Nathan saat ini sedang menempuh pendidikan Sastra Inggris di Universitas Sanata Dharma, Yogyakarta. Posisi Kak Nathan di Project Child Indonesia adalah sebagai Content Writer Intern yang berada dalam Media & IT team.

Kak Nathan sudah mengenal sejak lama tentang Project Child Indonesia. Ia pernah menjadi relawan Project Child Indonesia pada batch ke 29. Merasa tertarik dengan program-program dari Project Child Indonesia, Kak Nathan ingin bergabung kembali dengan Project Child Indonesia. Oleh sebab itu, Kak Nathan mendaftar Project Child Indonesia Internship Program.

Latar Belakang

Kak Nathan merasa tertarik dengan program-program Project Child Indonesia karena berhubungan dengan anak-anak dan pendidikan yang mana Kak Nathan sendiri suka. Ada dua program yang Kak Nathan suka, yaitu program sekolah sungai & drinking water program. 

“Itu (Program Sekolah Sungai) menarik karena kerabatku juga ada yang tinggal di seputaran tempat sasaran program Project Child (sekolah sungai di Code) dan menurut pengamatan pribadiku, sangat bermanfaat untuk anak-anak sekitar yang memang butuh wadah edukasi dan berkreativitas di luar sekolah.” ujar Kak Nathan.

“Drinking Water Program (DWP) yang dulu aku pernah gabung di semester awal kuliah, ini juga gak kalah menarik. Karena selain sesuai namanya, yakni menyediakan akses air minum bersih ke sekolah-sekolah negeri di Jogja, di program ini juga ada kelas-kelas tambahan yang materinya didesain khusus dan mencakup bahasa Inggris, environment, dan juga kesehatan” tambah kak Nathan. 

Di samping itu, kak Nathan juga suka menulis. “Karena suka menulis dan kayaknya memang cuma cocok dengan menulis dari antara job desc yang lain.” jelas Kak Nathan sambil tertawa. Sebelumnya Kak Nathan juga sudah pernah magang sebagai editor & translator di LIPI. Kak Nathan juga punya jiwa eksploratif. Untuk sekarang ini, Ia masih ingin eksplor lebih banyak bidang lagi. Oleh sebab itu, content writer menjadi posisi yang dipilih Kak Nathan.

Kehidupan Intern

Kak Nathan sebagai content writer bertugas untuk membuat artikel setiap bulan dan konten microblog yang akan diunggah ke LinkedIn. “Kami berempat (Kak Amanda, Kak Alin, Kak Je, dan aku) nulis artikel, kak. Biasanya kami menulis sekitar 10 artikel setiap bulannya. Selain itu, kami juga menulis konten microblog untuk LinkedIn” ujar Kak Nathan. Untuk penulisan konten sendiri, waktunya dibuat fleksibel, para content writer dipersilakan untuk membuat konten kapan saja sesuai dengan tenggat waktu yang sudah ditentukan. Di samping itu, para content writer juga bertanggung jawab untuk menjadi proofreader content writer lainya.

Sebagai anak magang, berbagai tantangan dihadapi Kak Nathan. Kak Nathan harus pintar- pintar dalam melakukan time-management karena Ia juga sedang sibuk mempersiapkan sebuah acara, mengerjakan skripsi, dan ditambah menulis konten untuk Project Child. Kak Nathan mengatakan,  “Kalo ini jujur masih belum nemu “paling benernya” gimana”. Kak Nathan sendiri bukan tipikal orang yang suka bekerja dengan jadwal terstruktur yang tertulis. Menurut Kak Nathan menulis itu butuh ide & gairah – dan kadang hal-hal itu tidak muncul setiap saat atau di waktu-waktu yang diharapkan.  Di samping itu, Kak Nathan juga kerap mengalami writer’s block. “Biasanya aku take a break sih dari menulis, terus mulai lagi selang beberapa waktu. Aku cabut keluar, entah itu ke cafe, warung makan, atau bahkan burjo, terus ngerjain tulisanku.” jelas Kak Nathan tentang cara Ia mengatasi writer’s block. 

Manfaat yang Didapat

“Aku belajar banyak dari teman-temanku di tim content writer. ternyata menulis gak sesempit yang aku bayangkan sebelumnya. Aku jadi kenal dengan variasi-variasi dan gaya penulisan yang lebih beragam. Jadi, aku bener-bener belajar banyak di sini.” kata Kak Nathan saat saya menanyakan tentang manfaat apa yang telah didapat dari program intern ini. 

Kak Nathan tidak menyesal sudah tergabung dalam Program Internship Project Child Indonesia. Ia merasa senang kenal dan bertemu dengan orang-orang baru. Kak Nathan yang cenderung pemalu dan introvert merasa senang berkenalan dengan orang-orang yang berasal dari latar belakang yang berbeda. 

Kak Nathan ada pesan untuk kalian yang ingin bergabung Project Child Indonesia,  “PCI adalah tempat yang tepat banget kalo kamu ingin mengenal dan belajar dunia kerja, gak spesifik ke sektor NGO aja, tapi aku berani bilang di dunia kerja secara general. Di sini juga, teman-teman Intern, Volunteer, Manager semuanya baik dan gak segan-segan buat assisting kalian lebih lanjut. terus juga, dengan gabung ke PCI, kakak-kakak juga bisa berkontribusi untuk membantu sesama, terutama anak-anak dan komunitas vulnerable. Jadi belajar sekaligus berbagi kebaikan.” Everyone can do good banget, ga tuh. 

Respecting Others in International Day of Person with Disabilities

Written by Amanda Ramaningrum, Content Writer Intern at Project Child Indonesia

Happy International of Persons with Disabilities! On this day, let’s remind again that disability is part of the human condition. Almost everyone will suffer from a temporary or permanent impairment at some point in their lives. Despite this, only a few nations have enough systems in place to properly meet the needs of persons with disabilities.

Celebrated every year on 3rd December, this event’s purpose is to promote the rights and well-being of people with disabilities at all levels of society and development, as well as to increase awareness of their condition in all sectors of political, social, economic, and cultural life.

Why is this event important?

Because people with disabilities often get discrimination and have struggle with access the services. Just because they look different, it doesn’t mean they are not ‘normal’. With this event, we more aware and bother to take more action with the discrimination that they faces. 

Quoting from a British Council interview with Phil, one of the disabled in England, Phil said, “The Social Model of Disability recognises that some people have impairments which affect how they function physically or mentally. But they are disabled by the physical and attitudinal barriers that exist in a society, which excludes them because it does not take account of their needs”.

We must be aware that there are barriers in the environment that make the disability person isolated from society. For example, is the reason that a person in a wheelchair cannot get on a bus because they can’t walk or is it because the bus is not designed for people who use wheelchairs? We must believe that the bus is the problem rather than their inability to walk.

To fight this, large-scale action is required not just from the social sector, but also from the government. The first thing that has to be taken more seriously is to expand infrastructure that is accessible to people with disabilities.

Then, what can we do?

Worry not! Because everyone can do good. When the government takes serious actions, and you feel you’re not doing enough to help, just knowing the disability etiquette and giving them respect is more than enough. According to VMI, here are some disability etiquette that we can do:

  • Don’t assume they see their disability as a tragedy. Many persons with disabilities have overcome difficult emotions in order to be happy and pleased with their life. An apparently innocuous comment like, “I’m very sorry that happened to you,” or something along those lines, might make a disabled person feel sad and regretful.
  • Ask if he or she needs assistance before providing it. To be respectful, don’t strive to fulfill every last requirement of someone with a disability. The best option is to ask, “Is there anything I can do for you?” or “Would you like me to open the door?” Helping before asking indicates incapacity, which might offend the individual, especially if they’ve worked hard to be able to care for oneself.
  • Do not underestimate the abilities of someone with a disability. Many persons with disabilities can care for themselves without the support of others. They’ve spent a long time adapting to a new way of life. Don’t worry about taking care of them since they realize what they’re capable of and what their limitations are.

Remember, the most important aspect of interacting with someone with a disability is to see that person for who he or she is, not for the disability that person has. Everyone can do good, treat them the same way as you want to be treated. Let’s take better care of each other!

References 

Disability Etiquette: How to Respect People with Disabilities. (2016, June 28). VMI. Retrieved November 5, 2021, from https://www.vantagemobility.com/blog/disability-etiquette-dos-and-donts 

Hari Disabilitas Internasional. (n.d.). British Council Indonesia. Retrieved November 5, 2021, from https://www.britishcouncil.id/hari-disabilitas-internasional

International day of persons with disabilities. (n.d.). WHO. Retrieved November 5, 2021, from https://www.who.int/campaigns/international-day-of-persons-with-disabilities

International Day of Persons with Disabilities 2020. (n.d.). WHO. Retrieved November 5, 2021, from https://www.who.int/news-room/events/detail/2020/12/03/default-calendar/international-day-of-persons-with-disabilities